WHEN YOUR BEST FRIEND GETS MARRIED BEFORE YOU DO

To be really honest, this kind of attitude stinks...and am not beating down anyone but if you say you really trust God the way you say you do then you won’t have to feel bad or jealous when your best friend gets married before you do. I get it, both of you have grown up together since you have been kids, you both finished school together, you have graduated at the same time..got your first jobs at the same time and now you expected that you will get married about the same time and now you are disappointed because not only are you not about to get married but also you're  single to the bone,no a man in sight – you feel as though you have been left behind.

But here's the thing, that our timing is in God’s hand.. its not in our hands or in something floating in the universe. God is orchestrating our lives in different and unique ways and you can't afford to match up and photocopy you bff’s life.

You know when your best friend expects your 150% support and she puts you in the lineup or as her maid of honor, and just because she’s about to cross the ‘I do’ line before you do, so now you keep bringing up petty arguments on which dress or which color the maids should put on, you want to take over control the of the marriage preparations or you say things like “ thank God I ain't getting married..that married life is like being on a leash forever..”

Our worth and values isn't in who gets the ring first among our friends, you worth and value is what God says you are period. With or without a ring, God has a divine assignment for you to fulfill and an amazing plan for you to enjoy life and have it in abundance (John 10:10). Trust God to write your love story at His appointed time instead of scrolling up and down you phone book trying to drag some dude with you to the wedding because you can't afford to look single. Your reputation to not look single needs to die..less of you and more of God.

 So what if you are in your 30’s or 40’s and  you have attended everyone’s wedding including you younger siblings, and everyone has given up on attending your wedding (probably even your parents)..God hasn't forgotten neither has He given up on you getting married. He knows the desires in your heart for the spouse you want...all we have to do is to be about our Fathers business and have fun while doing it. The bible tells us to; Seek first the Kingdom and all these things will be added unto you.

God is not running out of great husbands and wives when He blesses others with marriage partners. So trust God and chill, if He gave you His one and only Son won't He also give us freely all other things (Romans 8:32).Let's truly rejoice with them that rejoice.

God’s got you and He knows what's best for you. Trust Him.

Proverbs 3:5

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.

NO MORE LOOKING BACK…

There is a place God has delivered you from and you are still looking back and wishing you could go back and have the things you used that God separated you from. In your heart you secretly miss the clubbing, the friends you used to spend all your time gossiping and backbiting with others, the boyfriend who you completely loved but treated you like second best (an option)- and all the while God was whispering in your heart to let him go. If you could be truly honest with yourself, you really feel that you had more freedom before you got saved , chasing worldly things, and whatever you felt like doing you did- no one stopped you.

The Israelites went through the same thing in the wilderness. They began to complain and grumble and in Numbers 11:5-6…its says : “We remember the fish we ate in Egypt that cost nothing, the cucumbers, the melons, the leeks, the onions, and the garlic.  But now our strength is dried up, and there is nothing at all but this manna to look at.” They wanted to go back to what they used to, the melons, the onions –but they forgot they were in bondage that was in Egypt. One thing I have come to learn is that the enemy will remind you of the how good life was back then but he won’t remind you of the afflictions that made you cry out to God daily to deliver you. 

The enemy will remind you how Friday nights used to be popping with you squad but he will not remind you how empty and lost you used to feel on the inside. He will remind you how great of a boyfriend he used to be taking you out to classy places or taking care of some of your bills but the enemy will not remind you how treated like another option  or like his object. He will remind you how gorgeous that ex-girlfriend was and all your male friends looked at you with envy but the enemy will not remind you how materialistic she was, or even how she kept seducing you into sin when you desired to live a godly and righteous life unto God.

I am here to remind you that the life God is calling you to have is far much greater than the life He delivered you from. Don’t fall for the lie of the enemy- Colossians 1:13 says we have been rescued from the dominion of darkness and we have been transferred into the Kingdom of the Son (Jesus). The devil is mad you got rescued from his hand because he was about to sift you like wheat but know you have escaped and all he wants is to bring you back to that low place, to that place of oppression and a place of defeat. 

Its time shake away the memories of our Egypt- the house of bondage, even if you enjoyed a few things from your past, you’ve got to know that where God is taking you is much better- it’s a land  that flows milk and honey. For all the things you lost, God is going to replace with far much better, but we need to stop secretly desiring the ungodly lifestyles we used to live that only lead to death and embrace the plans and purposes that God has for us.

Even if you are in the wilderness, a dry place and it looks like nothing good is happening, you need to trust God with your whole heart even if things are not the way you expected them to be. Our part is to live an upright, godly life –not by our own power but by the power of the Holy Spirit- and see how God will do signs and wonders through our lives and all people around us who thought we had lost it and are psychos or we are a bunch of boring people, they shall see that we are called by the name of the Lord and they shall fear you (Deutronomy 28:10).

Let us close the door to every compromising spirit that seeks to draw us back into bondage and into sin and habits that do not glorify God.

It is not in vain to live a righteous life, it is not useless to live according the standards of the Word of God rather than the standards of the world. God will honor you when you honor him with your life (1 Samuel 2:30).